Nearly 14 years ago, a rookie reporter met a sports editor at the newspaper where they both worked in Yuma, Ariz. At first, they were friends. A few months later they started dating, and a couple moves/jobs/years later, they were married.
The newlyweds lived in a Reno apartment and both worked at the newspaper. He, a sportswriter, worked many nights and most weekends. She, a breaking news and multimedia reporter, typically worked Monday through Friday. At night, she’d try to stay awake until he finished work, most of the time falling asleep on the couch, and waking up when he got home. Some nights when they were both home, they’d stay up late laughing and playing Scrabble.
Ten years, two kids, two dogs, a few more moves, a master’s degree, and a couple of layoffs later, they live in Arizona. She works in PR, he is still a sports journalist. Most week days, she leaves for work before the rest of the family is awake. Many nights, he comes home after the rest of the family has gone to sleep. She’s usually too tired to wait up now, and sometimes, they go three days without seeing each other awake. But sometimes something as simple and silly as dissecting the quality of the lead paragraph on a news article over a series of text messages can make them feel connected in the middle of one of those stretches. Scrabble games are now few and far between; instead they’re more likely to watch movies on the couch for in-home date nights (and she frequently falls asleep on the couch). But they still make each other laugh.
He’s a grand gestures kind of person, who once surprised her at the airport in LA when she landed for a family visit, and another time flew her sister across the country for a baby shower. Her acts of love are smaller, and she’s more likely to bake or pack a lunch bring home small treats throughout the year. They share household duties and parenting responsibilities, but sometimes argue over who got more sleep and have never once agreed on bedding for their room. But even that, they can laugh about.
It’s been a crazy, wonderful 10 years, with the highest highs and some painful lows, but they’ve supported each other through it all. They are very lucky to do this amazing, ordinary, extraordinary, exhausting, exhilarating life together. Here’s to many more years of making each other laugh.